Your doing great keep up the dbing. Making alife for yourself is what is needed while they are on the mothershhip... ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
My Wife just left me a message thanking me for giving our dog a bath etc. but she also told me that she is going sking this weekend and is taking our dog. She didn't say with who but... the only place she goes sking for the weekend is the OM resort condo.
My plan is not to acknowlege this and I plan on not answering her phone calls or texts if in fact she does call etc. I am looking at this as an opportunity to re-set the bounderies and not reward bad behaviour. Three weeks ago I dropped the ball and let her off the hook when she canceled our ski outing because she had a hangover after skiing at OM resort. She may think in some twisted way that I might think it is ok because of how I handled the last situation.
I don't know why she feels that she has to tell me this time she didn't tell me were she went last weekend.
My question is any suggestions on how to respond?
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
Perhaps she is testing me because I have been vague and have not been telling her where I have been going. This is a exhausting chess game. Hopefully this is a chance show her some strength and communicate that I don't approve of her bad behaviour without saying anything. Of course I wish she wasn't going and I want to kick the crap out of OM but this is reality and I am the better man. Boy that felt good!
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
I know how you feel about boundaries. There are two specific things coming up that I am not going to let happen. I think the general rule is to be kind but firm and if backing off is working then keep it up.
I am at the point where my wife is already gone so my take may be a little different. I would love to pay the om a visit for you, he wouldn't have to worry about skiing anymore.(kidding of course.) It is frustrating I know. Keep praying and remember the back and forth of all this. It's like they can't let go all at once. Sometimes things are not as they seem in the MLC world to us rational folks.
Follow GM advise do not contact her or answer her this weekend. Be friendly and busy when she gets back...not cold or aloof like GN said.. Please find something to do to get yourself out of the house. so you won't get stuck thinking about it.
I'm curious why does she have your dog? ITSY
M54 H54 married 30 years Prostitues and Other women "100's" 10/7/2004 Prostitue/Junkie girlfriend 6/04-1/07? Left 1/5/05 returned 1/9/05 Asked h to leave 4/2005 Had to, prostitues OW 5/2005 not a prostitue Divorced 9/2006
I think this will be a tough weekend for me. Itsy she will be taking our dog I guess because I am working midnights and won't be able to let her out. OM has a dog. Usually we just drop the dog off at out inlaws. My gues is that she doesn't want her MOM to know were she is going.
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
Try not to let it get to you. Don't be available my brother, get out and have some fun. Hey gamer find anything on that xbox invite thingamajig from J3B?
