Climbing out of the swamp

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Frank wallows, I could post my redundant, self pity, anger at self, self destructive, post again...

Frank had been asking how I got to the point of not caring, and I told him anger. Anger motivated me, anger at her, and at myself.

I did not use that anger destructively, nothing got broken, but it fueled me to move on and not fall for any of he BS lame and weak attempts to reach out to me. "Did you get that email I sent you about reading books?"

I simply used it to get past her and move along.

So when I say to Frank harness your anger, I mean it. ANGER, ladies and gents, is a tool. You can use it in a smart manner.

Frank right now is getting a ton of advice, some the same, some conflicting, and you would have to not have read Frank in a while to figure out that Frank is sitting there not knowing who to please. Cycling all the information.

Instead of typing about what he is going to do...tomorrow, but really maybe never, he needs to move in a direction, and right now ANY decision is better than sitting there not making a decision if just for his self esteem.

The answer to the question was: I deleted both emails without responding.

I talk Alpha to Frank because it is something he desperately wanted to be or to buy into. Aplha's are a pack concept, it doesn't work well in a marriage. But being a strong well balanced man is and being an alpha at least provides a part of that, some is more than none.