I see frequently the advice to not answer the phone or e-mail, which is essentially a ploy to give the impression that you are away doing something. You're supposed to "fake it until you can make it"; pretend you're happy. So, all this dissembling is fine, but not really dating?
I thought the point of not immediately answering phone calls, of pretending to be out and having a life, was to keep from sending the message that you are still hanging on every contact from your spouse. You're trying to not appear desperate or incapable of being on your own.
And I think that's a GREAT deal different than actually dating another person.
Seems like a good rule of thumb is, "If you would do it with your spouse at home in a good marriage, then do it. Otherwise, think twice."
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
