Climbing out of the swamp

[brandnewday]

My perfect, loving W was not the perfect person after all. And use that info to help me fix what I need to fix in me.

I am sorry, and I am not wanting to start any crap, but I am still so confused as to the anger and betrayal issue here.

It is not anyone's Spouse's responsibility to be the fix-it person in our lives.

We can blame all we want if we feel they are not meeting our needs, but if are not communicating what it is we want then how is it their fault?

And not to pick on anyone, but Frank chose to drink and to shut his wife out when his business failed and he was depressed.

She could no longer handle the lonliness either, because she was also shut out of Frank's life and sought comfort in someone else's arms.

I am NOT by any means saying that she was correct in her bad choices, but she was also pushed into this choice.

Both of them are equally to blame for the demise of the Marriage.

And now, when she wants to try and be responsible and help out because Frank is in deep doo-doo, everyone finds fault with her motives, etc, and makes wise arse cracks about her email jokes, etc.

I am sorry, and I am ready for the 2X4's, but none of this is helping Frank, it only feeds into the anger and self pity.