I recently read a book that clarified what "happened" to me, as if it was written about me. A few snippets which I hope will help to give you the strength to end the limbo are below:
-A woman's tendency to judge a man's behavior causes her to always be standing just a little bit outside of the relationship. Although women believe themselves to be naturally committed, they're actually naturally inclined to judge and assess men's behavior to determine men's level of commitment to them.
-The mindset of a partially committed person is "I hope" or "I'll try." The mindset of a fully committed person is "I will."
-After you've given up your option to live in limbo, then you will be able to decide what to do regarding your marriage. The moment we accept our fate, regardless of what it is, we can begin to heal. Marriage is not about holding the other person hostage or responsible for our happiness. Great relationships serve to inspire, help and support each partner in discovering and following their passions and in fulfilling both an individual and a shared purpose.
