I think you've got the right game plan going. Just give her space and make every interaction with her enjoyable without any R talks.
That's what I've been doing and it attracted my W back home. We still sleep in the same bed and it's been okay so far and my next step is to work on the physical stuff.
One step at a time is what seems to work best.
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