Phoenix I have been thinking about this alot lately. Even though my W was unhappy in our marriage I was unhappy too. I just tolerated it more than she did.
I often wonder what I'm holding onto and why: My W? The R we could have and not the one we did have? Keeping my family together? Atonening for my mistakes? Avoiding the pain I see ahead/financial struggles/time away from my kids/the house we bought together?
At this point I really can't answer that question. There's a mix in there somewhere but as far as my R - it wasn't good for a long time, and it was really chity for that past year. What the heck am I pining for?
Steady, I think it's good to think about this stuff. It doesn't in any way preclude busting the divorce. Like you, your wife has problems and contributed (and continues to contribute) to the demise of the marriage. Nothing wrong with recognizing that. In fact, I see a lot of newcomers that appear here and say, "I killed the marriage". They heard every piece of trash that came out of their spouse's mouth and are convinced that they tore their spouse down to little tiny pieces and they are about the worst people ever.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
