They may object to the notion on their own moral and ethical ground (That is that it transgresses against their marriage vows and religious principles) and that is their right to do so and yours if that is how you feel.... but, many of these same people also erroneously believe or let their moral "stance" on the issue cloud their thinking, confuse their own personal disliking of the tactic and leads them to deny the effectiveness of the tactic....
Having a affair is a effective tactic to get your spouse to wake up to the issues in the marriage. It is very effective. Cheating is a effective way to win at sports. Fraud and blackmail are a effective way to make money. Sorry my morals and ethics are clouding my judgement, I don't buy it.
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Many will say that the tactic doesn't work, that it will backfire or will do harm to the relationship that they are trying to save...but this really is not true (although of course there can be exceptions I guess).
So is it true or not? If the author has to guess, makes me wonder.
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it can be the absolute quickest way to get a partner (that is leaving you) to turn their head long enough to see what they may be losing...
Absolute leaves no doubt, yet the author uses the phrase "can be" to describe the effectiveness.
This article is full of double speak and contradictions.
How come there is no welcome to the female perspective on this thread? If they are the "opposition" wouldn't we want to know what their thoughts are? I know I only control me but having a great scouting report makes preparation a whole lot more valuable come game time.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.