Hi, Jackie..have not been around for awhile..sorry about the steps backwards, but with all this great advice, I think you have a plan..I know exactly what you mean about him coming home..my h used to walk in the door and I just started talking away...he wanted to unwind..let your h relax a little before asking him anything.I also know about phone calls and leaving the room, when h ff called, he usually left the room...and of course that puts doubts in anyones minds... Keep taking care of yourself..it really does work to make yourself a s happy as you can..and great job on the weight loss..it is a struggle, but you can do it.
