Believe nothing you hear. they will speak in negatives to justify their actions in their minds and to anyone who will listen.
Believe half of what you see. They will appear happy and carefree, not true.
Going dark is very hard to do. It took me 5 months to get it right, it took 5.5 months to forgive. And trust me, you need to forgive yourself first. From feeling bad, to blaming yourself to not being able to do anything. you are a person. you are you. you did nothing to warrant their behavior. Get mad, get angry and get over those emotions now. they will eat you alive if you do not. NC is hard, it is damn hard. Get with friends, do something you always wanted to do , either with your S or by yourself. One thing, pick opne thing and do it. work at it, become the best at it.
You deserve a life, do not let them control you from outside your circle. Weren't you somebody before you were with them? co Dependency is a bitch!1 and you need to get past that. The book has some excellent things and info. the book is for you. No one wants to come back to a train wreck, and no one wants a train wreck back. You can choose to be the windshield or the bug, your call. But remember this, YOU ARE A PERSON AND YOU ARE YOU!!!
