Thanks Mockers. Good ideas. I think I am going to try for a week my very best to follow through on this. I am very thick skulled--I do grill, I don't mean to, but I was doing it again last night. H was in an odd mood, cold and distant and also tired. But I wanted to know why. He didn't want to talk about it. So I asked questions in many different ways to try and get to the point, is it me? How thick skulled can one be? Just let it rest! If it is me, will knowing this allow me to do anything about it anyway? No. Just will make me fret more.
So the goal is to let him come home, on days without soccer to have a decent dinner getting ready. To ask a question in a postive way: Did you have a good day? (not you look tired, what's wrong) and to act happy even if I want to kill the kids. To be a sunny, upbeat person to come home to. Even if the kids were hellions, to laugh about it.
Can we really teach an old dog a new trick?
Diet going well, only 52 more pounds to go! But I will be skinnier and fitter than OW at the xmas party!
