The Jealousy Button (men only)

[steady]

I have to say it. It's about rose colored glasses. This may come as a shock, but your wife isn't "all that and a bag of chips" and your marriage likely wasn't picture perfect prior to the bomb. If you were really honest with yourself, your wife is probably a fairly piss poor match at the moment. She's pretty self-centered and maybe has more than a few screws loose. Why shouldn't you do a little comparative looking around. I think it helps to see that. We need a little kick so we think, "why am I pining away for this woman. She's the one cheating and running around like a teenager. Why shouldn't she be chasing me?"

P.S. When I said "your wife", I wasn't talking about anyone in particulars wife.

Phoenix I have been thinking about this alot lately. Even though my W was unhappy in our marriage I was unhappy too. I just tolerated it more than she did.

I often wonder what I'm holding onto and why: My W? The R we could have and not the one we did have? Keeping my family together? Atonening for my mistakes? Avoiding the pain I see ahead/financial struggles/time away from my kids/the house we bought together?

At this point I really can't answer that question. There's a mix in there somewhere but as far as my R - it wasn't good for a long time, and it was really chity for that past year. What the heck am I pining for?