Waiting for the Happily Ever After Part

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Hi jackie - thank you for your post on my thread. Sorry for this rough patch for you. You are continuing to do well in recognizing things that need a little adjustment, and making the changes. How about going with your observation that your PMA takes a downturn when you stop doing things for yourself and treat yourself to something nice? How about a good CD to walk or lift your dumbells to? Don't know if you're into music much, but it seems to help me when I'm having a down time to listen to something I like. Another idea - how about a massage? I also find that I have much more resentment building up and am less patient with everyone when I stop having some time for just me.

An idea about greeting your H when he comes home.... How about saying hi and smiling, giving him a hug and kiss if that feels right, and then having something nice for him like a glass of lemonade or coffee or whatever he likes to drink ready for him. Then let him have some down time to unwind. Then you could ask him about his day a little later - maybe over dinner or after dinner when he's had some time to relax. If he really needs to be alone for a little bit maybe greet him, then say I'll be in here doing .... Dinner will be ready soon. Then go and do something for you or the boys. Could you ask him what he needs or what would help him feel most comfortable? Or would this be grilling? Just a few thoughts.


I agree with rj to keep your eyes open, but not to focus on the phone call. Keep your energy focused on you. Use the stop sign if you need it - it certainly helps me. So does saying "stop" to myself outloud! Sometimes I think I've already gone over the edge.


I can see how holding the baby could bring up those feelings. This has happened to me too in a similar situation. Hold on to your faith, though. And try to see this as a rough patch. I think the conversation and his response to your crying are baby steps.

This stinks, but you're doing a great job. ((((Jackie)))))