I feel like if she's not interested in the marriage then she just needs to get going. Should I tell her how I feel? I just don't know how much longer I can go on like this. I need healing.
That's why I think GALing is often for yourself to help get thru what is a very painful time. Try to GAL as much as possible, do fun stuff, sign up for a class, start cooking, try a new hobby or sport, etc.
I would not recommend talking about feelings. I think when a WAS is like ours and in that kind of mindset when you talk they hear: blah blah blah nag nag blah blah blah or something like that. I'm sure Puppy will help you figure out a plan in future, but you're very early in the process, and I think need to be more patient and focus on GALing.
You said yesterday (I think it was) you're bothered by the fact that your W doesn't seem to be feeling consequences or emotions. I do think they are on a different time-table than us, but at some point if not sociopathic, will encounter reality and consequences and all that. My H is having an A with a woman already married 3 times and cheated on her 3rd with my H. I predict in 5 to 8 years if not before (judging on her past marriages) she'll dump him too, and if not by then, I should think he'll encounter some regrets at that point for breaking up his family for her. My H although 100% determined to divorce has shown a few cracks very occasionally, but I think when they are doing the kind of stuff they are like breaking up a family they are more pressured to seem happy or whatever. Maybe harder for them to face that they've just jumped out of one frying pan into an even worse frying pan which i think they do... But again that's focusing on your WAS, and you need to focus on you.
