That is true but I think the point is to let the WAS feel what they are missing and empathize with us.
How can you make someone else feel something that will have lasting value? If you are trying to manipulate someone elses feeling to get what you want, is that a healthy relationship?
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it sort of is trying to teach them a lesson.
Negative reinforcment. I think it also immature to treat another adult that way. She will learn her own lesson (maybe) when you make yourself the better option.
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The sad fact is that it does work.
And if it does is that the R you want?
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Is it wrong? Probably. In all fairness I'm not sure I can go through with it because it does weigh on my conscience but if I can plant a "seed" in my W's head that it's a possibility then maybe that's enough.
You feel it's wrong why? Does it go against your core values? Plant seeds that produce positive fruit for you.
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In my sitch I honestly don't see my W coming back anyway after leaving me 3 times for the OM. I'm not sure I really want her back anymore, that's really hard to deal with and I have to look at what and why I'm doing all of this.
Get to the bottom of that. What do you really want? Five years from now what does Rob plan on being?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
