The Jealousy Button (men only)

[RobD70]

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Replace "wife" with "husband" and "she" with "he," then that's the mentality you are adopting. If you are married and want to date then push for the D. But why would you want to play a "game" that has real consequences for lot's of people because of your vendetta?
You can have a great M either with your current W or in the future with someone else. Be strong ,wise, honorable and compassionate. Lead by your example, if she doesn't see your character shining thru then it then it's her issue. Have character - don't be one.
The way you all are describing dating it sounds like "little boy" behavior. She hurt me so I am going to pout and then hurt her back. Are we that needy that we have to jump out and find another woman to validate our manhood? This in no way excuses or dismisses the hurt by the way you are being treated by your W. You only control your actions. So do you want to follow her lead or be your own man?

Strength and Honor


That is true but I think the point is to let the WAS feel what they are missing and empathize with us. I don't care to be validated by someone else and yea, it sort of is trying to teach them a lesson.

The sad fact is that it does work. Is it wrong? Probably. In all fairness I'm not sure I can go through with it because it does weigh on my conscience but if I can plant a "seed" in my W's head that it's a possibility then maybe that's enough. In my sitch I honestly don't see my W coming back anyway after leaving me 3 times for the OM. I'm not sure I really want her back anymore, that's really hard to deal with and I have to look at what and why I'm doing all of this.