Thanks for all your thoughts, I feel fairly calm about this whole thing at the moment, which is helping me see things much more clearly, not with my slanted "victim" vision (that hopefully DB has been helping me remove.
PnT, I agree, I think the job does define him, it has been such a huge part of his life, how can it not. I've always worried about when he is done his job--what will the kids remember of him, but that is something he seems to be thinking about now.
Floyd, thanks for pointing out the yet, I didn't even think of it, and the perspective on the bad days. Per your advice, I'm trying to create an atmosphere to come home to that is comforting.
KAW, Oh yeah, learning the hard way seems to be something that H and I must do! Just so we don't miss the lessons when we learn it that way.
Rob--thanks for the reminder on cave man theory. It is good to hear male perspectives on this.
Mockers, aren't we just so lucky to be this age and go through this crap? Would we have believed it when we were in our 20s?
DB--nice to see you!
Sue, I like the number of word theory, H definitely uses them up at work.
Pam--keep plugging away, time does seem to make this easier.
So, to go on top of all this other stuff, H gets phone call at 11pm Tuesday from work, crisis and I really haven't seem him since. He gets home around 10 and then sleeps and off to work. He is working his butt off, but is also the hero at work for getting this done. So it is boosting his ego bigtime, but after three nights of not seeing him, I'm getting tired of it, but trying to be understanding, he has no choice to do a good job, not that he wants to neglect us, just comes with the territory. So doing my best to continue to be good natured. Tomorrow we have Yankees tickets, so he'll have one day with us. Must not make any sarcastic comments, but let him know we are glad that he is spending the day with us.
