The Jealousy Button (men only)

[RobD70]

Yea, if you don't make the changes then if this gets them back they wont stay. This is kind of a last resort thing when all else fails and you need to show you've moved on.

In my case there are no kids involved so it's a no brainer. I am a completely different person than I was since the bomb dropped and my W knows it and thinks I'm the perfect husband now. However she is having a hard time feeling connected to me because I'm too "safe" and it's not exciting and women crave excitement. I'm also competing against an OM who had gotten an OW when she can back to me the first time. Seemed to work for him.

Me dating is to add excitement and show her I am desirable to other women to spark interest in me again. It sucks no doubt and looks looks bad but sometimes you have to shake things up to get their attention. It's technically a rebound R anyway and chances are it wont work long term. I plan on being careful and aiming for friends instead of a full blown R but the W doesn't need to know this. If it doesn't bring her back then I got a new lady friend. If she does try to get me back she'll need to make an effort in order for me to give up the new friend assuming I want to. The thing is, the WAS left and the odds are against us for them coming back. There's not really anything to lose.

If kids are involved then I can see problems but you could still fake it (act suspicious) and still go out, just don't bring anyone around the kids.