It sounds like you have found out a lot about yourself and that you have really and truly shifted your focus to yourself and what you want for your life.
It is so important that you are able to move forward without blame. If one takes anything negative with one as he moves forward, then I think one is moving forward too quickly - or not really moving forward but rushing ahead, if that makes sense. I do not sense that in your words. You seem to be really free of negative emotions.
As for the conversation of closure, I am just not sure we get to have those. I suppose in some situations they happen, but if we weren't communicating well when the marriage was "working," I am not sure we can manage meaningful communication now that it is not. But, I try not to think of it as unfinished business. For me, I have done my business, I have nothing left to say. If you have something left to hear, I suggest you search within yourself. You may find the answer is already within you.
You are doing such great work making your way through this, showing a lot of strength, courage and dignity.
