Do you think part of her trust issue is that she either outright knows about or at least is pretty sure about the affairs and you have never come clean with her? Is it possible that rather than leaving, you need to give this a try first?
The risk of course is that she doesn't know and this is the final nail in the coffin, but it sounds like she knows.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
