you just live as friends. One thing you wrote a while back....you said something about how she said that you would be thinking about other things if you were intimate with her, and she would, too, etc. That, to me, just says she is dealing with what she has done. Once you have an affair, you have taken away something from a marriage that can't come back...that innocence, etc.......what would help BOTH of you is to realize that, yes, this is gone...BUT, you can have a new, BETTER relationship.
WDID,
YOU are so right. I NEED to get past this mostly. You see My W did have an affair with this guy BEFORE we were married also. SO in reality he had sex with her before me. That is what I tried to tell her. If he was going to leave his wife for her he would have done it 27 years ago.. Not sure if she undersood this but that is what I was trying to tell her when I said I woold not be thinking about "them two having sex" I would be thinking " I got her back" meaning someting / someone I lost is mine agian.. Understand? and that I could rebuild my trust as long as it did not happen agian.
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
