Here's a quote from Homer's book I mentioned earlier about dating:
"These methods work, and they work because of the low self-esteem of the wife. She values what she can’t have, and does not value or looks down on what she can have."
I think my W falls into that category.
One other thing I noticed it that it take about 2 weeks for the WAS to act out over this. I'm sure the effect is immediate but I think they probably try to avoid thinking about it at first or think it's not going to be a big deal. The 2 week mark must be where the breaking point is and they get scared.
When I went on my date it REALLY bothered the W even though she had completely written me off. She didn't want to hear about the date and was worried I would like the date more than her.
This is a great time to test this because V-day is in 2 weeks. I know if the W found out I'm dating it will kill her to know I spent V-day with a OW (even though I know she'll be with the OM but it might put a damper on her fun).
Now if I can just keep my head straight and not think about her I might be ok.
Me:38 W:40 Bomb/EA 03/08 Recon twice 1/09 W files for D Story