I agree. God will keep you home for your kids. I'll keep you in my prayers as well. These layoffs are awful. My husband is worried as well, but hopeful he won't be affected.
lwb- but you seem to actually have a pretty good relationship all things considered. So I think you did something right.
H-I will keep you in my prayers. Is this the time where everything comes tumbling down around everyone or what? I am hoping that you are with the 10% and not the 90%. Has your boss told you for sure? Hugs,
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
An update. I've already emailed some friends here, but on Tuesday evening, my boss spoke with me and I found out that while my job was on the line, she was able to give me a stay of execution.
My job is safe for now. Thanks to all that said a prayer for me.
Thank you, Pup.
I'm not out of the line of fire yet, as I do need to increase my sales and produce more business for the bank, which is difficult in these times. Everyone in my job position has found it difficult. I'm more under the gun because of my seniority and my pay.
I have 60 days to do good things or I will lose my job then, and without a severance package. So I will be staying off of DB a bit more. Gonna focus more.
Just to let y'all know, that night on Tuesday, I had to call the wife to pick up D7 from afterschool care. I was running behind because of the talk with the boss. The wife was at the apartment with D11 and S14 because she had the day off. I was so relieved after my talk with the boss that I offered to have Chinese at our local restaurant. After a long, "Uhhhhh....." the wife declined saying that she wasn't dressed and was still in her house clothes all day. Before she left the apartment to pick up D7, she had put some hot wings in the oven for the older kids because they were hungry.
"I was going to order pizza. If you want to order it, we can eat at the apartment. I'll pay for it" she told me.
I ordered the pizza to be delivered but told them I didn't know the address, just the apartment number, but the apartment complex is right next door. She told me they couldn't deliver if I didn't know the address.
Its RIGHT NEXT DOOR! I ordered to have it picked up and they gave me a discount. I called the wife to let them know that it'll be ready in about 20 minutes and that they wouldn't deliver and I was already at the apartment. She said ok, she'll pick it up. 20 minutes later, she comes into the apartment empty handed.
"Okay....do you think its ready?" she asked. She looked like she had a rough day and was tired or something. Not sure why she just didn't stop and pick it up before she came. I told her, "I'll go get it, don't worry". Walking out, she offered her debit card. "Don't worry about it" I told her again.
I pick it up and get back and we sit to eat and watch "Zoolander", which was funny by the way.
After we ate and we were still watching the movie, D7 came an laid on top of me while I was sitting on the chair. The wife later motioned to me that she had fallen asleep. I ended letting her stay the night instead of waking her up to go home. I put her to bed and D11 and I started doing our usual playing around and tickle fighting. I caught the wife just watching and having that thinking look.
Later, while trying to leave, the wife was offering to have D11 stay the night also, since the weather maybe was going to be bad with freezing rain predicted overnight. D11 told her that she wanted to go home with me.
I could see that it upset the wife, and she kind of made D11 feel a little guilty about it, but D11 called her on it and the wife apologized.
Wow!
Yesterday, I didn't really have any contact with the wife except that I sent her a text early in the morning to let her know that the roads were fine and that school was still on. She still doesn't have any tv or internet, she didn't know the weather for the morning.
She never responded. I thought she might, but then remembered who I'm dealing with.
The wife just called my cell phone about 10 minutes ago. She told me that her W2 was on the dining table. I told her that I'll purchase the program this weekend. She mentioned that a lot of people are telling her that they just do theirs online. I remind her that I also to other peoples taxes for them and that with the program, I'm just more comfortable.
Besides, I don't have internet right now. She says, "Oh yeah, me too. At least until the 3rd."
She has to have them come reinstall the cable and internet and phone, because she waited too long to pay the bill. She tells me that S14 will be disappointed. I tell her that it was better that she didn't have it.
We also talked a little about their birthdays coming up and how she opened an account for S14 to put money into and he can get a debit card. She had to take a client and I told her to call me later so we can discuss the birthdays. D11 is February 15th and S14 is February 4. My dad is February 2nd and of course, our anniversary is February 14th. Valentines day.
I hate February. First, it was because of all the money I had to spend, so close to Christmas.
And now for a different reason.
I'll be chatting with some of y'all soon.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
I know you're going through a lot, and why you are hanging out with your W. But dude, when you feel less stressed, you need to drop that rope! I honestly think you would feel better, and it might actually help your sitch. I will (try not to) say that again to you, b/c I know you know it already... Karen
I'm glad you get some more time at your job. MOre prayers your way.
I agree with Karen. But, you know this. She DOES know that you will be there for her no matter what, and that's good......but...she knows that you will be there for her no matter what (bad).....you know what I mean?
Question: If she wants to divorce you, why isn't she?
I don't think she really wants one. I think she is being stubborn and doesn't want to admit what a mess her life is this way. Plus she has bits of both guys as it is, why make that huge change if she doesn't have to.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
