Just make sure she doesn't think that you are accepting the relationship where you just live as friends. One thing you wrote a while back....you said something about how she said that you would be thinking about other things if you were intimate with her, and she would, too, etc. That, to me, just says she is dealing with what she has done. Once you have an affair, you have taken away something from a marriage that can't come back...that innocence, etc.......what would help BOTH of you is to realize that, yes, this is gone...BUT, you can have a new, BETTER relationship. Albeit a different one, but a happy one. It just takes work. She went to retrouvaille with you. Were there speakers there she could call to talk to? One of my speakers was one I could relate to greatly. She may benefit from talking to her.
