You need to get some legal orders ordering some cash to you and your kids right now. If he works for the FD it shouldn't be hard to get that set up. Its one thing to give him time to get his act together on the other issues but he has an obligation to his kids on the financial front. I agree with the others-get some legal help with this right away. That will give you some time to step back and go through the DB plan.
Just my .02...
Keep going forward!
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
