So I had a long convo with her tonight. So long story short no OM anymore..Whatever. Dbing aint gonna work with her while we are in the same house..She's got our teenage daughter in our bed with her every night now as she says "I scare the $%@! out of her". Due to my trying to talk the relationship to death in the beginning. She is so over the top right now. She says she can't even tell if she will miss me..
She says she wants a separation and we have to be out of the family home within 60 days..So it looks like a separation is coming. She actually told me tonight that she may move in with her friend and get this: she and the kids will all bunk in one room (4 kids). I said no way. No way. Not gonna happen.
So here's what I think.. I'm gonna get a place that I can have my boys with me and she can stay in the house until it goes. Basically told her that I can pay for myself but she will have to figure out how to support her separate lifestyle.
She definitely needs to see if she will miss having me in her life. I don't see how it is possible as things are. i need to let her try to do this on her own with no safety net. She can't make any decision where she isn't putting her own needs first. She can't even see it as she is obsessed with her own needs right now.
I am working on me now. I am so tired of this merry go-round with her. She is certainly in to her self now and I do love her. She said she wants to be friends with me and I told her I would co-parent with her and would be polite BUT I am not going to be available for that as it would be too painful.
This is her decision and she will have to take care of herself. I don't think she will come down to earth until she gets a feel for this on her own.
Okay ready for the 2x4's...Anybody else get to this point? Puppy?
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
