I may be off base here, and I haven't gone back in the archive to check all the history, but I just had a thought.......Does your W suffer from depression? Have you ever looked into that?
Some of how you describe her behavior stuck a chord with me, and I just wondered........something seems strange in your sitch.....She seems to feel "bombed" by you, and yet you are such a sweetie!! Something's not right about that....
Take care, J-man!!
TJ
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