I don't know nuthin'....but, I was a bachelor for a long time before being married (got married for the first time at 36) and I used to think "how could anyone cheat on their wife?" and "why do so many guys talk so negatively about their marriage, are they just kidding?".
After a few years of marriage, now my thoughts are more like "geez, no wonder there are so many divorces", or "don't women realize that guys probably are really turned off by this?" and "no, those guys were not joking".
The problem is, I don't want out. Number one because of my daughter, who is just ten months old. And, number two because I do not see a future scenario that is "better" than the current one. I made my choice to be married to this woman...and I need to make the best of it. I need to for my daughter's sake, for my wife's sake and for my sake.
I wish she'd realize that I would be happier if she changed a bit. I try really hard to make her happy and adequately provide for her and our daughter. The baby makes me very happy...and my wife too. I just wish my wife could put a little more into keeping me happy besides my happiness from the baby. Maybe I'm being selfish, but I feel that I've sacrificed a bit for this marriage and I was expecting more happiness generated by my wife.
Divorce is not an option...it would only result in more unhappiness for me, plus unhappiness for my wife asnd likely my daughter too.
I hate to have to think this way, but I just might start ignoring my wife, sexually. Maybe she needs a taste of her own medicine. Let her go "unwanted" for a period of time. Let her be rejected intimately a few times. Maybe playing-hard-to-get would have some benefit. If not, perhaps she'll at least inquire as to what is wrong and I'll have an opening to explain that I need more intimacy and I want improvements in that area.
