Hey Kevin!
I had to email him today to confirm the appointment for Monday and to confirm his plans to pick up D4 tomorrow. I was also under the impression he was working this weekend so I let him know that I would appreciate it if he had to leave her, that he bring her back to me. Told him that we are all fine and that I hoped he was too (but I didn't ask). He emailed back that I should have known that he would leave her with me before leaving her with OW and that he thought we had already had that conversation. Whatever. He asked one other question and I answered it and didn't ask any in return. I am sure he has realized that I only answer if there is a question and so now he only answers if there is a question. Good policy, probably.

Although we aren't making any progress together, I am doing better I think. I finally found Evans' Verbally Abusive Relationship. It's hard. If he is, it is all covert, nothing that just screams verbal abuse, although J and Breakaway would probably disagree with me. Also got a book on Enneagram personalities. That book is cool.

Other than that, "all is quiet on the Western front". Work is good. Heard OM state today that he, another coworker and I are the core group for administering ACT test. I said "NO. I gave up the test supervisor position to you. I told you I am too busy. I WILL NOT be administering this exam. Please do not consider me a part of this group anymore." What part of "This is your responsibility now and I won't be able to help you" did you not understand???!!! I know I was perfectly clear when I told him this last week.

I know it's stupid, but I can't help but wonder if he doesn't go ahead and file for divorce because he knows it gives me hope and that as long as I have *some* hope, I probably won't ask his command for a no-contact order. Then, if and when she moves out, he'll file for divorce right away. What can I say? I'm an analyzer. To the point it drives me crazy but I can't keep myself from it.

MIL called tonight and I let the machine get it after what she said the other night. "I just won't believe that H said he only married you because you were pregnant. You know he was young when ya'll got married." Yeah, DAW, I just make this cr@p up. And we were both young. How is it I was able to control myself the first 10 years but he wasn't?? But I didn't say those things. I shut my mouth and ended the conversation. Why stay tangled up in it, kwim? ;\)

Anyway! \:\) I am going to go check on everyone else.

Mel

"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."

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