I keep feeling like I am losing ground. This thing with W and her megalomanial desire to wrest fatherly roles from me looks to be a losing battle for me. Teacher's and caregivers were already informed by W, and the arrangements are practically set in stone now. Moreover, I am disheartened by the attitude that they should all automatically defer to the mother and join her in disregarding the father's interests. Is it because we all tend to be biased towards the mother and assume the father is at fault? I have done nothing wrong, effectively, and yet I am being treated like a criminal.
So she has done it again, launching her plans to rearrange our children's lives early enough to make any opposition from me too little too late. She has managed to keep me in the dark until the last possible second to prevent me from taking any effective counter-action. She has already solidified her beachhead and entrenched her position across my boundaries. And since this is the third time in less than a year, she has established a precedent that I can be pushed out of any decision making capacity with regards to our sons.
I can play fair and adhere to respectful, honorable treatment of her position, but she will do anything and say anything to get what she thinks she is entitled to, even if that means disregarding her children's father. I abide by the "rules" of engagement, but she has proven she will use that to only gain advantage.
My attorney seems bewildered that W and her L would be so bold as to not only flaunt their disregard for my consideration regarding our S's welfare but that they would even entertain the idea of taking me to court. They must think they can prove such a horrible image of me that it would justify practically any wrongdoing on their part.
And W's L keeps insinuating I am a deadbeat for not agreeing to pay the higher child support they wrongly calculated, as if I am somehow trying to rob my children by merely defending myself from W's avarice. They have even suggested that I should pay spousal support (alimony), in total neglect of the overriding fact that W is guilty of adultery and criminal conversation.
Maybe they're "shooting for the moon" and this is all just standard legal posturing. But even were they to be totally shot down in court, I fear the terrain for co-parenting will have become so scorched and made toxic that it will become nigh impossible and our S's would suffer.
