I'm glad your kids are okay. I always worried about mine. Thankfully S22 was already 16 when it all happened, and he was pretty grounded. S14 though, he was only 8, and he has grown up in a crappy environment. Not that I'm a bad mom, but I know I wasn't the best for awhile. And now, I may not be the best either, but I try.
I just notice that he's different from other kids sometimes. Part of that is rejection, the moves, losing friends, no friends in the neighborhood, etc...lots of stuff. So I worry about him sometimes. I hope he turns out okay.
But so far no drugs, pregnancies, jail, etc....with either one. And S14 always does well with behavior and such in school, earning awards, etc...So I guess that's a good sign? I hope. I still worry though.
So I just keep him busy with karate, piano, community service, clubs, and traveling. Now we're trying to get him into the academy. I think it will be good for him.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!