I want to thank you again for commenting on my post and for sharing your story. You came in at a moment when I was in sheer agony, and I was quite reactive to all of the information I was taking in. I apologize for my charged response.
I just read through your post again, and noted some helpful information about sex therapy. Bagheera suggests to do it as a couple so that it isn't taken as fixing him. That is a smart tip, and I plan to ask my husband to see a sex therapist.
You haven't posted on your situation for a long while. Are you taking a breather from focusing on it? Are you OK?