I am in a position of having my W say to me, several times, "when will you realise that we are no longer a married couple, there is no more us". Also she refused to 'not' have any other R before we have gone through the D.
So, I guess I have been given carte blanche to get out and about.
However, I was telling W the other week what my IC had told me to do, which was leave W alone and chat other women up via the internet. W said "she is right, well, not about chatting the women up, but you should move on".
Interesting comment from her.
I can fully agree with the self esteem boost. I have been made to feel REAL crap. (not found you attractive for years, you are a -2 on the scale and sex wasn't what I wanted) This is all without a continuing OM.
My eldest S (23) tells me to get out there and do it. Leave W to it, it's her mess. Younger S (21) is closer to W but I have told him of all the attention I am getting. He doesn't discuss things with W though, so I don't knpw if she has heard that.
When, not if, but when I date again, it will not be to make W jealous, it will be for me, to boost my ego and to make me feel liked and wanted again, for the 1st time in years if I am honest.
