Just thinking of you. To me, it does sort of say something that she hadn't made you a quilt. I am just not sure what is says yet....
i miss my kitties. i had two until we found out S was allergic to them.....He loves them too, that is the bummer. We sent them out to the farm when he was 2, we still see them there but he can't pet them....
It seems you guys are already 'detached' in your conversations, hmm? I am not reading much emotion....
((((((BobbiJo))))) I think the quilt thing may say something. Or not!
I would be so sad if I was allergic to cats! We didn't have one for a long time. W doesn't really like them, mostly because they shed, and can do bad things to furniture. Charlotte is my sweetie, though!
W has been detached for a long time. And I think I am there, maybe past there. Maybe too far, but that's the way it is.
We talked a little more last night. Because she wants to be moved before school starts things might be really fast. She said something about this being sudden. (My head almost exploded. She has been out of the room at least two years, hasn't ML for for. Won't accect a kiss. Hasn't hugged in forever. And it is sudden?) I asked if she saw anything that would change it. She asked if I was going to clean up more around the house. In her mind, it really is all about housework! Then she said something about how she thought we were ticking along. Supporting my theory that she was perfectly content witht the way things are, and isn't really interested in changing them. I think my letter made it clear that I was willing to try to work on things. She has made it clear that she isn't.
I think I may be feeling more relief than I realized. The next few months will be really stressful. But the idea of sweeping the eggshells out of the house is pretty attractive!
I was thinking today, that it is almost like she feels that I bombed her! It is a reversal I had not expected. Considering that she is the one that has actualyl said, "Can I have a divorce?"
I think you are right about that, Michelle. She seems to think I've been pushing her out, when I was pushing the "old" R out. And she didn't want that.
You asked if she saw anything to change it, and she asked if you were willing to help clean up more? Where did it go from there? Do you honestly think she would consider working to make the M work??
You asked if she saw anything to change it, and she asked if you were willing to help clean up more? Where did it go from there? Do you honestly think she would consider working to make the M work??
((((((BobbiJo))))))
I said I didn't think so. Then she said that I would be. And I agreed.
No, I don't think she really wants to do anything herself to make the M work. She'd be happy for me to spend the next 10 years trying, I think. (OK, that might be mean, but that's how it feels.)
Last edited by Virtually_Handsome; 01/29/0910:36 PM.
Finally catching up on your sitch. Your threads go SO fast! Anyway, I'm encouraged by your optimism. I know the full range of emotions, and you may feel all of them in a single day. It's crazy, but you are (obviously) very loved by all of us here.
Take care of yourself. And best wishes for telling the kids. I was 13 when my parents sep and it's a horrible age to have something like that happen. It will be hard for them, so be there and be the best dad you can.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
