I told this before,but it bears repeating on this thread...
I have a good friend of mine that had been dating this woman for YEARS. I believe around 5 years or more. She kept seeing this old boyfriend of hers too. The old boyfriend would come over and mow her lawn and do things around her house. She kept telling my buddy that they were only "friends". He would talk to me about it and I kept telling him to give her the silent dump and start being seen around town with other women.....
He would listen, but I knew he didn't believe it and thought if he could just be the better man that she would suddenly fall deeply for him and tell the other guy to get lost.
This went on and on and on. Then I woke up and realized that he was as responsible for allowing her to do this as she was to keep doing it. It was no longer all her fault. I was thinking that nobody was making him stay and be unhappy and if he kept allowing it, then he was just as much to blame.
Then I stopped trying to help him see the light.
I finally realized that he is going to do what he is going to do and that I was wasting my time and breath. I stopped giving him any advice. When we talked to each other we kept it to sports and other things...
And then one day out of the blue he tells me.. "I am done"
FINALLY.. He finally has enough. He stops calling this woman. He starts seeing someone else.
His ex finds out. Starts calling my wife (they are good friends) Asks my wife to ask me what she can do because she realized she loves him. She drops her other friend. Writes my buddy a huge long letter of how sorry she is and for how rotten she treated him.
He doesn't even respond. She is devastated to this day. She STILL wants him back. He is now seeing both of them. It is driving this woman crazy because he goes out with her and doesn't make any moves or say he wants to get back with her.
He will call her up once or twice a week. He asks her to do things with him sporadically. After every date she calls my wife and tells her the whole date and then asks for the old Gooch's opinion on what she should do.
Total 180 and total turn around. It didn't happen until he had someone else. I thought..... "There it is again, a guy finally gives up and starts dating and boom"...
