I agree that we often let ourselves go, once a relationship becomes 'certain'.
But what I think triggers someone to have an affair, is being given ATTENTION and CREDIT for deeds done by another person. This person isn't always better dressed or better looking, but they have a way of giving compliments to the soul, therefore reaching that person's heart in exactly the right way, and off they go to have an affair !
So, not only should we look after ourselves, we must also not forget to compliment our spouse !
An example was given on Oprah the other day. A guy was saying how he had been out jogging with his wife, and while they were running his wife had said to him 'you know, when you run...' (he immediately thought his wife would criticize him...) but she said, 'when you run, you look SO SEXY !' the man started GLOWING and said that all the lovey dovey feelings came up, just hearing her say that !
I think sometimes it is more simple than we think...but we must make the effort !
Don't forget how lovely it is when someone says something nice about you, it's ENERGIZING !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
