First off, in my sitch, there is no OM, just a checked-out WAW that is distant, but cool, and biding time for the finances to get in order for the D. In my mind, I am doing less in DBing these days, less for her reaction. More for me, me, and me.
I won't give up till the papers are signed and would not consider dating or scoping online. Having said that, I do look more - around me. Look for wedding rings on women at church, the grocery store, the gym. Wonder who I will be with if my W decides to leave.
I lost 30 post bomb lbs., work out a lot - got into the best shape of my life - at 49! Get out more. Bought new clothes (had to for sizing), wear cologne more and smile more at the opposite sex. Found more women smiling back and even saying hi before I do. It's all I need for now as my W has no interest in me. She can do whatever she wants - I will be ok. And I don't want to go down the path of who will do better - I want the best for her and the best for ME.
