I actually saw the exact video of the gentleman giving that presentation and it wasn't Dr. Harley, it was the guy who wrote His needs, Her needs. It turned me completetly off. His basic premise is that he can support anyone who wants to leave a marriage due to infidelity. He thinks its such a grevious act (and it is) that he couldn't imagine anyone wanting to stay. BUT he says if you want to work through it, he can show you how to do that too. His basic point was to KNOW it can happen to anyone, and to GUARD against it. If you think your marriage is too strong for it to show up-that's when it happens.
He was forthright and blunt but I was somewhat discouraged with his "if you want to repair it, Okay I can show you how" attitude.
I don't have his credentials but I would nor seek him as a counselor after hearing that. He was the one who told the rape story and he definately was generalizing to make his point. I have felt the pain of an A as has my wife. But I find it a strecth to believe that a gang rapre experience couldn't be as or more traumatic than an A.
Just my thoughts.. AND thanks for the feedback everyone...
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
