I went through a stage of getting fed up with my H as well, there was even one time he reacted to me as if i was still old me, and I felt like shouting out "of course i'm not like that anymore, WTF do you think I've spent the last year or so doing?" But i kept it to myself. it was important that I didn't show any anger but didn't turn into a doormat either. i had to learn assertive. Assertive never shouts, demands or gets sulky. Assertive states clearly its wants and but doesn't force the other peson into any decision.
Hope that makes sense! Just wanted to chime in and say I'm still thinking of you! Remember you've had quite a stressful time of late, around H's family, being on your guard etc. When you get back make sure you take some time for you, OK? Some time when you can just be yourself without hacing to consider H's feelings, only your own.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
