Others say it feels like their spouse took a chainsaw to their chest, ripped their heart out, and threw it on the floor and stomped on it. Is that any better form? Puppy
Yes, it's *much* better form. An hyperbolic physical metaphor to describe the pain of infidelity, as opposed to comparing something you've experienced (infidelity) to something you hopefully haven't (rape).
I'm not knocking the experience of *actual* rape victims who say that FOR THEM the infidelity was worse. But it doesn't mean that everyone who has experienced both would agree. And I just don't think it's a place anyone who *hasn't* experienced both should go. But then, being more of a Schnarchian, I think a *lot* of what Harley advocates is rank idiocy, so there you go.
That said, I agree with you about the sugarcoating and doormattage often advocated 'round these parts. "What works" doesn't trump "At what cost?" in my world.
Cheers.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
