I was merely reporting what Harley believed (he's studied FAR more of these than I have, and has those letters after his name, too!), and that -- based on my OWN experience -- I agreed with it. For me.
Others say it feels like their spouse took a chainsaw to their chest, ripped their heart out, and threw it on the floor and stomped on it. Is that any better form?
It is what it is. I detest calling affairs "extramarital relationships." Or OM/OW "extramarital partners." All that stuff. Many LBSs won't even use the "A-word" with their cheating spouse. Infidelity, Adultery and Affairs should all be called what they are, and dealt with. Sugar-coating them doesn't help -- in my opinion.
