Karen as for the boys discussion with their Dad, they are both thinking he is a man sl*t. Relationship between him and the kids is on a downhill slope. S16 asked me if he could use a small notebook to basically journal to his Dad. He asked if he could curse. I said in the book sure, but probably not such a good idea in a real one on one conversation.
kat
I think that's a great idea, kind of what we do here but more private. One of my friends from church's husband died a few months ago and she said her teenage son doesn't express his grief that much, but does in his journaling, so she said she realized that's how he processes all that. That's so sad that your x is acting like that, both for himself and for your kids. I don't understand why a parent would do that! Does he know how they feel about him or is he just clueless do you think? Of course, my H acts like this too I know; just don't get that.
Oh, my L was saying that my neighbor was asking her all about me this past weekend (it's a small town you know) and she said she thought he knew more about me than she did, but I really haven't told him directly anything but we are separated. But I'm sure everyone else chats about me and I'm the hot topic. H is kind of shocking for a small town like mine I think. Karen
Sadly my ex refuses to take any responsibility for the kids feelings about the situation or how the deal with it. S13 is having the hardest time since he is making him go with him all the time and then forces skank on them. I wonder if part of the school thing isn't him acting out to get his Dad's attention. Again, he seems to pay more attention to the teachers than to S13.
I think there are a few guys lining up for you Karen. You just don't want to believe it!! lol
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'm with Puppy and Yoyo, the cookies were just an excuse. Wow, Karen is going to be the town Hottie...
The conversations that they have with the kids where they try to make everything ok is solely for their own benefit. If it actually had anything at all to do with the kids or their feelings, they would encourage the kids to talk and express their feelings. Its simply about salving their own conscience and wanting to continue to cling to the "fantasy" of everything is going to be "perfect" now. Yah right. Real life is not pretty. Since none of them address their issues, they will take their baggage and then some into these new relationships and the inevitable will happen. When they finally get whatever it is they think they want, they will realize only the names have changed, not the issues.
Sorry for the small rant, but thats what is seems like to me.
So are you going to deliver the cookies in the purple dress?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
So are you going to deliver the cookies in the purple dress?
Have mercy! I'd say she's already having an effect... even without the purple dress.
Wow...the plot thickens...First it's cookies, then delivering the cookies in "the" purple dress, now NCB is talking about delivering cookies without "the" purple dress. Karen's rating is going from PG to R!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
So are you going to deliver the cookies in the purple dress?
Have mercy! I'd say she's already having an effect... even without the purple dress.
Wow...the plot thickens...First it's cookies, then delivering the cookies in "the" purple dress, now NCB is talking about delivering cookies without "the" purple dress. Karen's rating is going from PG to R!
Cookies and Bob and a Dress...Oh MY!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
