Episode IV: A New Hope (?)

[dday101798]

Whoa, I think you mis-read me there. I did not bash her or tell them their mother does not love them, that is actually the complete opposite of how the conversation went down. They brought up the conversation, not me, they are the ones that lashed her a bit, not me.

I have kept it as simple as possible and put things in the terms of the world as they know it as: if someone continaully picks on you, you tell someone right? If someones constantly trying to pick a fight with you, you tell someone right? If someone steals from you, you tell someone right?

See through all this rhetoric, it is vitally important to instill common sense right and wrong to the children. Mine, have been brainwashed to think that when a mom and dad don't get along anymore, it's fine just to leave them for someone else and now they are starting to see that is not the way a family is supposed to function thankfully because otherwise they will go on into life and do the same exact damn thing, plain and simple, we do as adults as we learned as kids, no?

AND, they were devasted the night of the 16th after I had them get cleaned up and ready to see their mother and she rejected them, point blank simple, sighting the order of protection as the blame. Car trouble? She lives only but 4 blocks away so that won't fly.

Bottom line, I'm not out to paint her the bad guy with intent. They made that choice, they know she still loves them, they are her children and I remind them of that. But, when it ocmes down to it, they need to know that this not right, and I will only sugar coat things so far, I will not lie to my children, but I will also not tell them things they don't need to hear as kids, she does enough of that for me.