That being said, I am sorry that everyone here is dealing with betrayl, crushed spirits, emotional beat downs, and last but not least, the real world financial mess their Ws's have caused. Seems like everyone of these jokers goes off on a spending binge and burns through a life's savings in months.
Mine is off living life large -- paying all the OM's bills, providing him with her vehicle, and wining and dining him.
Meanwhile, back at the ranch, I am responsible for all the earthly mundane things like mortgage, insurance, utilities etc -- there is no free lunch at my place.
SHE is nearly $40,000 in debt TOTAL (all run up in less than 6 months. SHE fully intends that I will be "awarded" half that debt and the court more than likely will support that position.
And this is PRECISELY one of the reasons why I am SO "nazi" about aggressively doing everything possible to bust up affairs as quickly as can be done!!! I frequently cite:
- financial damage to the family the longer it goes on (squandered family assets, legal bills, health bills, intel expenses, etc., etc.);
- continued health risk (STDs) to both the wayward spouse and the betrayed spouse, the longer the affair goes on; - the stronger emotional bond that gets built every additional month the affair goes on, making the affair that much harder to bust;
- the very deep (and largely underreported) damage to the betrayed spouse's self esteem and even to the point of emasculation in the men;
Why ANYONE would want to sit back and let that go on for 18 months to 2 years or even LONGER is beyond me. Personally, I couldn't do it -- I felt my strength sapping after only two months. Most can't.
That all being said, Fitz, no family court judge worth their salt is going to count documentable "squandering of family assets" against your debt. Do you have record of all these expenses? Your wife (and you) will have to submit DETAILED financials to the court in any divorce action.
