Diane - I am sad and sorry for you, very much, because, I'm afraid for your marriage. I wish I could say "oh hey, at least he's willing to try" but it actually doesn't sound like he is willing. He doesn't want to lose you, but isn't willing to make the changes or do the hard work necessary to not lose you. This was exactly how my marriage ended, so I'm really sad for you....but at the same time, I hope I am wrong and that your husband has an epiphany and somehow things can change!!!
Keep us updated...we are all hoping and praying for you.