God forgive me for saying this cuz I'm not sure how DB it is...but who the hell cares if maybe he wants to work on a it a bit but can't or doesn't know how or whatever...HE WON'T...and that's all that matters isn't it?
He is def hedging bets. He wants to know what is the minimum he can do to stay m, and then stop. That's what his question means- about what happens if I shut up again, IOW, what happens when I stop trying again? I want a guarantee that I keep getting "2nd" chances, and 3rd, and 45678th chances, and you promise you won't leave me every time I throw in a dime or two, to "prove" I care...a little...or a lot but not quite enough to get help b/c I'm.....me....and...I...don't...feel...like...working .....on....me....
His choice is 1) stay pretty much the same and most likely lose you; or 2) change and maybe still lose you, or 3) change and probably keep you. His choice thus far, for six years anyhow, is number 1. His fear is #2, but I say to that--
"So what if you lose her after you change? The change is mandatory for keeping her, and for a real life anyhow..."
He IS missing so much and he is forcing you to miss it all too. So really the choice is yours now, not his. He's told you his answer. He wants to do as little as possible but wants to know exactly how little he can do to keep you married in case someday he feels like changing. Losing you makes him uncomfortable, but not nearly as uncomfortable as getting help to work on his issues. Sorry, but that's how I see it. Really I am sorry, (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
