OK..this is not exactly dating, or seeing someone, but I just wanted to relay a story that I thought was sort of amusing.
Last summer, about 4 or 5 months after the bomb, I made plans for a 3 day camping trip, asked my wife along, but ended up going by myself.
The site I ended up with was across from a group of young college girls that ended up befriending me for the weekend. We hung out, drank beers and cooked back and forth at each other's sites over the day or 2 that they were there.
Also, one night during the weekend I ended up in a little town up the road at a tavern, hanging out with the locals, and ran into the girl that checked me in at the campsite, along with one of her friends....spent a few hours with them, drinking beers and playing pool.
At no time over the weekend was I unfaithful to my wife. Also, to the best of my knowledge, infidelity has never been an issue in our marriage, before or after the bomb. We have had several conversations about this, and have what I have always called, humorously, a "gentleman's agreement and handshake" that while we are together...no matter what the future..there would be no indiscretions on either of our parts.
So long story short...when I got home from camping and my wife asked about the trip, I was honest and open about the whole weekend..the girls at the site, the bar, etc. I figured at that point, with her still reminding me every few weeks that we were going to separate, what reason did I have to hide it. Besides, I did nothing wrong.
She didn't say much, other than "Well..glad you had fun", but was much more reserved and quiet for 2 or 3 days after that.
One night while we were sitting and having dinner she looked at me and said "H, you remember our agreement, right", and I played a little dumb...what agreement?
"You know...no other people, no emotional attachments, no cheating while we are in the middle of all this?".
...and she proceeded to tell me how much it would hurt HER if she found out I had cheated on her, then even went so far as to ask about past possibilities of me cheating with other women during our marriage...basically asking for reassurance, once again, that I never had and would not cheat on her...physically or emotionally were her exact words.
