Cohabitation in Connecticut would negate your responsibility to continue alimony for your wife. You'd have to go to trial to adjust it.
Is the amount you pay voluntary? Are you paying above what the guidelines for the child support and alimony? My ex spouse paid me 40% of his NET take home pay, which was considered equitable in CT for child support and alimony during the divorce process making it very difficult for me to support the family and household.
Now that the divorce is final I receive 40% of his GROSS income.
It's your choice what you do. She'll keep going to the well until it dries up.
As far as the 14 year old boy, I don't think you have many options. Counsel your daughters and son about appropriate behavior, what should be expected.
Net, net, I'd limit the payments to what is reasonable and customary. When in doubt, let the additional money go toward paying half of the kids activities if you're not already doing that.
Hope it helps.
Like I was told when it comes to making a decision:
If the answer is yes, it's yes.
If the answer is no, it's no.
If you waffle, the answer is no.
Go with your gut and make sure the sale of the house isn't be dragged out for the monetary gain (and later divorce restrictions) of your wife.
