Wayward Wife/MLC or Just Bad Behavior

[fitzge]

sandi2 -- First excellent post with lots of meaningful points.

Or maybe,you take it b/c you think it is easier than getting into a "fight" b/c you know that is what it will be and you just don't have the energy for it.

I never won any of the disagreements or fights we had. My WS had a way of twisting facts to suit her purpose. Additionally, she always managed to throw in items or issues from years before. Bottomline: she was always right and I was always wrong or too blame.

{quote}What I am trying to say is that I think over the years, you thought it was just easier to allow your W to treat you like she did--rather than do battle with her, so her power over youi grew and grew until now she is out of control and has absolutely not respect for you{/quote)

No argument that she has zero respect for me (AND for herself). By way of additional background, I feel I am dealing with someone who extremely self-centered, and armed with an over-the-top sense of entitlement. Couple that with HER overblown sense of accomplishment and the situation becomes difficult. I spent a long time in the Air Force and was a fighter pilot for many years. And, no we in the trade are not all Pappy Boyingtons or the Great Santini. Most of us are level headed, straight shooters and decent humans. Had you meet my WW or MLCer you would have thought she was in the service doing the job. She took complete credit for all the flying schools I finished, all the advenced academic degrees I earned, and even for the various promotions I got.

I have never let anyone else on the planet walkover me like I have permitted this person to do.

Finally, I appreciate the perspectives offered by the ladies on this forum, and I look forward to the men (who are farther along in the recovery process) continuing to roll in and tell me to wake up and deal with reality.