Ok y'all, I need to run something by everyone to get their input on it. First, let me say that things have been going smooth. X is very serious w/ her new BF (since November) and that has kept her out of bars and therefore no more "white trash" antics to upset the kids. Kudos to her. I've been doing great! We've done a decent job of co-parenting. While X hasn't been doing bar-fly stuff and the initial issues from meeting the BF have worn off, I have heard a constant "gripe" from the kids, especially the youngest. They get jealous of time X spends with BF and his kids while they are with her. No biggie, I can counsel them through this.
Our house hasn't sold so the financial terms of the divorce (CS & A) haven't kicked in. Basically, I'm responsible for all. Hasn't been bad since she quit going to bars and burning money like it was going out of style. For the most part she hasn't been hitting me up for money that I didn't feel like was fair.
So, things have been good, not much convo between me and X, civil & borderline friendly when it happens.
Now, on to what I need advice on. This entire month she has been hitting me up regularly for additional money. I haven't complained, figured it was easier to just cough it up versus debate it. Last night the kids came over to my place for their normal "every other Wednesday night". They told me that the oldest son of the BF (he's 14 & in same grade/school as my middle D) has been staying at the house for the last week and a half, sleeping on the sofa in the TV room.
Okay, I have two issues with this and I'm not sure how, or if I should, voice them to X:
- He's a 14 year old boy in the house with my 16, 14, and 11 year old daughters. They haven't known him that long. What if "something" happens? I just don't think it is proper and I think that I should somehow document my objection. I can understand a night here and there if circumstances are dramatic, but almost two weeks? I just don't think my girls, for that matter my 8 year old son, should be subjected to this. I know it is a stretch and I should be able to trust judgement of my X (wouldn't knowingly put kids in harm's way), but I don't. I think she is all about impressing her new BF.
- The secondary, and not so important thing, is that it irritates me that I now know why her expenses are going up. She is feeding a 14 year old boy every day, not to mention entertaining her BF and his other two sons almost every night.
